Are you ever haunted by your past? Do you ever see flashes of a time you desperately wish could erase from your memory forever?
You know, those memories that make you cringe while you’re waiting in line at the grocery store or helping your kids pick up their Legos. Those images that made you think to yourself, “Where the hell did that come from?”
Maybe you don’t have vivid images or flashbacks to a time everyone wants to forget, but I bet you have moments in time you wish you could change. (I know I do!) Maybe those memories don’t come to visit you very often, but when they do…man, they can derail your entire focus. But we can’t change the past…so what do we do?
We dig deeper into those hay stacks of memories to try to pull out that one little needle that threatens to torment us for the rest of our days. There is some reason why that moment in time lurks in the corner of your subconscious, waiting for the right time to reappear and shake shit up.
What I have come to realize is when a memory haunts me, it is because I haven’t fully dealt with it. There are countless ways to “deal” with a situation from the past, but more often than not it has to do with not being able to let go of something. Maybe we need to forgive someone. Maybe we need to forgive ourselves. Maybe we need to ask for forgiveness. Maybe we are holding onto resentments. The list goes on and on.
In no way do I believe it’s a good idea to keep pushing those memories aside and not address them, but instead I encourage you to face them and find a resolution to make them go away indefinitely. As I’ve stated before, I don’t know everything. But I do know that letting memories and your past control your thoughts leads to toxicity in your life…even if you’re sober.
There are, I’m completely positive, a gazillion posts on the internet about motivation. I’m sure there are so many out there that you couldn’t read possibly read them all in one lifetime. But, with that being said, here is another one.
Motivation comes easy to some people. Motivation feels like a pipe dream for others. Some people can wake up spiffy and “ready to go!” Some people have to drag themselves out of bed just to take a shower and make an attempt to live their life.
It’s not easy, for anyone. Not just the people who struggle with motivation, but also the people who are trying to conquer the world – one good attitude at a time.
We all need that push, that drive, to keep us going. Otherwise, what is the point? What is the reason for any of it? Why are we still showing up every day? Why are you still showing up every day?
There is a reason.
I’m not here to give you that reason because I’m still working on figuring out that exact thing out for myself. I’m here to remind you to find your motivation. Find your reason to stay in the thick of the muck instead of escaping to an easier alternative.
Motivation. Motivation. Motivation.
Have you ever woken up one morning and thought, “Man, life just really sucks right now?” I can’t imagine waking up to the idea that I’ve had to evacuate my home, not knowing when or if I’ll ever be able to return. Unfortunately, this is the fate that a lot of our friends and family are faced with in and around the Houston area.
I’ve seen pictures and videos posted all over the web showing things you and I have only seen on the big screen. I’ve watched dozen of my friends post pictures of where their neighborhoods used to be. I’ve seen countless photos of devastation at its finest. But there’s one thing that stands out above all of those negative things…people helping one another.
A friend of mine posted about being rescued from strangers in a boat with inner tubes tied to the back of it. Her, her husband, their belongings, and their cat were rescued because these people selflessly put themselves in harm’s way to save others. Another friend was rescued from an apartment building were her and her daughter were barricaded for days. In the video, someone asks my friend as they were riding in the boat, “Do you think the rest of these people will get out too?” My friend simply responded, “If they leave soon.” So surreal.
Please keep sending prayers to these people affected by the devastation, but also to the people who are willing to risk their own safety to help a stranger in need. I’m grateful that we are able to pull together for the greater good of our neighbors in need!
Lately, I’ve been feeling very rejuvenated and wanting to start ramping up my motivation for the last half of the year. Many people get bogged down and worn out by the time we hit mid-year and our productivity starts to slow way down in our professional lives as well as our personal lives.
Maybe we make more excuses to not do something. (I’m queen at procrastinating and putting things off until the last minute!) Maybe we avoid being around certain people because we know we’ll just have to see them more over the holidays anyway. (Yes, I’m guilty of this one I hate to admit.) Maybe we’ve had such a great first part of the year, after busting our tail ends since January, that we’re exhausted and feel like we’ve hit our peak and there’s nowhere to go but downhill from where we are today. (Wah-Wah-Wah…the Debbie Downer version of our story.)
I’m here today to give you some words of wisdom from somebody who knew what it meant to not let struggle and obstacles stand in her way.
Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.
Wow…that’s good, right?
We may be surrounded by bad breaks, bad relationships, bad decisions, or even at a minimum a bad hair day, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t someone out there who has been in your situation (or worse) and overcame their struggles. I’m motivated by the thought of someone out there in the world who went from being homeless and completely hopeless to turning their entire life around and becoming this powerhouse of a human being all because they decided to believe in themselves.
Don’t let your past or your present or even your future hold you down and hold you back. You were created to do wonderful things in this world. Now go and do them!
Okay, so yesterday I was complaining about missing things and people. (Well, you might not think I was whining, but I heard the little childlike voice in my head stomping her feet and crying.) But then again this morning I heard the same complaints in my head. “We haven’t met any new people. We have no friends here. I miss our old friends and our old neighborhood and our old schools.”
Then I realized it was me who had control over this. I guess it was easier to blame everyone else for not magically falling into my life and exclaiming, “Yay! Let’s be best friends and I have a best friend for each one of your kids too! Isn’t life fantastic?!?” (Okay, I would probably punch someone who dropped into my life that spunky and upbeat…but you get the idea.)
In looking back at all of the friends we made when we lived in our old town, I realized we met all of those people because we were actively involved in something. Whether it was basketball, baseball, the PTO, the library, the park, our church, or even random people in our neighborhood, we met them all because we were actively doing something.
In other words, I’m going to shut up now and get out there and meet some new people. Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it can be uncomfortable. Yes, I don’t really like awkwardly slinking away when I feel like a conversation with a total stranger turns boring or weird.
So here’s my challenge to you, go and actively make a new friend today. Maybe you say, “I don’t really need any more friends. I’m good.” But we were all created to be connected to more people so that we may learn from them, love them, and enjoy their company.
I’m sure you’re wondering how I come up with these amazing, catchy titles for the daily posts I make. (HA, real clever huh?) But as silly as it may sound, I don’t normally know exactly what I’m going to say day in and day out. Many people out there in the blogosphere tend to harp on planning everything and making sure your entire year even has a title and a post months in advance. Well, I’m not those people. I’m not here to make sure my ratings are outstanding or even really to have millions of people reading my blog. I’m here because I’m just like you, my friends.
We are here to share, real stories about our real lives. We are here to encourage one another or perhaps even give some tough love when needed. We are here to be honest. We are here to be true to the people we are trying to become. We are here to embrace one another through the hard times and congratulate each other when we’ve reached milestones.
Keep it up, friends! You are doing a great job! Have a Fantastic Friday!
I will be traveling out of the country for the next few days and I’m not 100% sure if I’ll be able to post while I’m gone. Instead of leaving you in complete silence, I figured I would give you some motivational words of wisdom.
“I am thankful for my struggle because without it, I wouldn’t have stumbled upon my strength.”
― Alexandra Elle
It’s always great to be reminded that without our struggles we have had in this life, we wouldn’t be capable of the strengths we found along the way!