There are, I’m completely positive, a gazillion posts on the internet about motivation. I’m sure there are so many out there that you couldn’t read possibly read them all in one lifetime. But, with that being said, here is another one.
Motivation comes easy to some people. Motivation feels like a pipe dream for others. Some people can wake up spiffy and “ready to go!” Some people have to drag themselves out of bed just to take a shower and make an attempt to live their life.
It’s not easy, for anyone. Not just the people who struggle with motivation, but also the people who are trying to conquer the world – one good attitude at a time.
We all need that push, that drive, to keep us going. Otherwise, what is the point? What is the reason for any of it? Why are we still showing up every day? Why are you still showing up every day?
There is a reason.
I’m not here to give you that reason because I’m still working on figuring out that exact thing out for myself. I’m here to remind you to find your motivation. Find your reason to stay in the thick of the muck instead of escaping to an easier alternative.
Motivation. Motivation. Motivation.
There was a pop-up notification that I have been writing this blog for a year. A whole year, people! That may not seem like a big deal to you, but man oh man…that’s huge for me! The reason why it’s such a big deal is because in the past year I have let go of so many issues that have been lingering around forever, and it’s all thanks to this community.
Before, I would walk around holding in my resentments about the past, complaints about the present, and worries about the future. That is until they started becoming too big of a burden to carry.
Now, I get to come here everyday and talk to y’all before any of the chaos of my life (that comes with having a husband, 3 kids, and a dog) takes over. I get to sit down with my cup of coffee and contemplate life with you fine people each and every day.
So yes, a whole year is a big deal for me! Hopefully, there will be many more to come!
Life as a stay-at-home isn’t all that glamorous. (Shocking, I know!) I’m not waiting to go to dinner parties when my husband gets home from work, or trying to get ready for the ball everyone other weekend. I try to get out of the house as much as possible and go places that both work for my schedule and help me get stuff done – the gym, the grocery store, the post office, etc. (Calm down. I know I should have told you beforehand this was riveting stuff!)
There are some people, moms specifically, who choose to get together ever so often for drinks or a “girls night”. (Although, I do know some moms who may meet too early in the afternoon, on a school night, to call it “girls night”. But I digress.)
For a multitude of reasons, I don’t go to these types of gatherings. I’ve been invited to go to an early dinner at a beautiful winery to enjoy the scenery. Pass. I’ve been asked to go have margaritas at the local Mexican food joint. No thanks.
So, why not go? Maybe you are thinking, “You don’t have to drink. You have enough will power to just say no. Just go and be social.” There are two reasons why I don’t and won’t go to these kinds of activities.
- I still don’t 1,000% trust myself when I’m sucked into the vortex off a girls’ night out. (Plus, have you seen girls when they get sloppy drunk? And you want me to be the DD and take care of everyone? No thanks!)
- Drinking and being around drinking has a very personal connection with me. I realize some people have a healthy relationship with alcohol and can stand to be near it, but I am no such people. I don’t like to smell it. I don’t like to see what it does to people. And I especially don’t like it when people offer you something to drink, you politely respond with “No thanks. I don’t drink,” and then that’s followed with the infamous question, “Not even a glass of wine?”
I realize this may not apply to everyone’s situations and my reasons may be completely different than yours, but they are valid nonetheless. Don’t put yourself in awkward positions unless you are 1,000% comfortable in your own skin and know that you are in control of yourself.
Sometimes we have to motivate ourselves to simply get out of bed. Sometimes we spring right up with no hesitation. Why is that? Maybe you are excited about something fun you are doing or you are going to have lunch with someone special you haven’t seen in a while. Maybe you are motivated and inspired to get to work because you absolutely love what you do! (That’s the dream for everyone, right?)
Hopefully you have found some sort of motivation in your life where you can turn to when things start getting tough. Maybe it’s a friend. Maybe it’s a sponsor. Maybe it’s a family member who has loved you through all of your life’s ups and downs. Maybe it’s an internal motivation you find when you take better care of yourself. Whatever the case may be, please continue to look for new ways of motivation each and every single day.
With all of that being said, I believe it’s perfectly normal to be motivated and encouraged with all of your life’s endeavors and still have a little fear. I’m not talking about the crippling fear that controls your life and keeps you trapped in a deep, dark hole. I’m talking about the kind that makes you question your own motives. The kind of fear that for a split second makes you wonder if you are making the right decision.
This kind of fear is more of a pass-through tool. It’s not meant to come in and set up shop in our lives. It’s meant to enter our consciousness, make sure we are paying attention, and then say adios before we’ve finished our next thought. It is just the right amount of fear. It’ll keep us on our toes, but also keep us aware of the decisions we are making.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but how often do you look in the mirror and tell yourself, “Man, you’re looking good today!” Okay, maybe not verbatim of that last sentence, but when was the last time you thought, “I’m finally starting to look on the outside how I feel on the inside.” (Which could be a good thing or a bad thing…)
This isn’t about vanity or conceitedness. This is about appreciating yourself and your body in a way that only you can do. Sure, you can listen to people tell you all day what they like and don’t like about you. They can list all of your flaws and imperfections, making you feel about the size of a kitchen mouse. Or they can go on and on and on about the sheer beauty you radiate every day just getting out of bed in the morning. (I’m pretty sure no one gets out of bed “glowing” like they do in the movies anyway. I’m just saying…)
What I’m trying to get at here is that if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else is going to do that for you. Sure, other people can believe in you and know that you’ll be alright in the long run, but what good does that do anyone if you don’t believe it yourself?
I know we all go through seasons of high and lows in life, but when you look in the mirror do you recognize the person staring back at you? If you answered “Yes”, then great! Ignore everything I’ve just said and move on. But if you answered “No”, what can you do to remedy this situation? Can you get in better shape? Can you start dressing better, even if you’re only going to be at home all day? (I’m guilty of wearing too many pony tails, no makeup, sweatpants, and baseball caps!) Can you get more sleep? (Is there a store where we can buy more sleep?) Could you use some more energy? (I can always use more energy!)
There are numerous ways in which we can be working towards a better version of ourselves, but if we can’t even recognize the our own image in the mirror then that’s definitely where we need to start.
So take a look in the mirror today. Do you like what you see?
I’m not sure what type of relationship you have with your Higher Power (HP for short), but I know that sometimes I get a clear and concise message that I know was meant specifically for me.
For example, I’ve been working on creating a website. For months, I’ve created/managed/published/modified everything on this site myself. I built it from a pre-selected layout I chose and went from there. Now let me be clear, I am not a web designer. I am not a graphic designer. I have the ability to use Google to my advantage to figure things out, but that’s about it.
I started praying for guidance about someone helping me build a more professional looking site. And I kept praying. And I kept praying. “Am I just supposed to figure this out on my own? Do I need to hire one of these fancy people that I can’t afford to make me a really cool website? Do I need to scrap the whole thing and go get a real job?” All of these questions crossed my mind several times a day.
Then one day, several months after my initial prayer for guidance, I met someone by happenstance at a workshop I was attending. It was no coincidence that this woman sat right next to me, my mom, and my grandmother. As I was busy helping coordinate the event, all of the ladies at my table began to chat and one conversation led to another. Come to find out, this woman was a well seasoned web designer! What?!? By the time I came to rejoin our table, she had already jotted down her contact information and encouraged me to email her as soon as I was ready to take the next step.
Some may see this as coincidence, but I see it as God’s divine appointment. We don’t know when they’ll come, but I try to be as prepared for them as I can be. So I keep praying for things to happen in my life and I keep encouraging others to be on the lookout for these events to happen in their own lives.
Be alert to the people you meet and interact with everyday. You never know what message God is trying to deliver to you.
Since this is a place of vulnerability and honesty, I have a confession to make. I noticed I hit the “200 posts” mark the other day here on The Truth Behind Nothing. Wow…200! That’s a big freaking deal. No, it’s not the measure of success for most people, but then again I’m not comparing myself to most people.
I’m astonished that I hit 200 posts simply because I’ve wanted to quit basically ever since I started. (I know that’s probably not something I should admit on a blog where I’m trying to help and encourage other people, but hear me out!) There have been mornings where I sit down at my computer and think, “There can’t be another word in my brain that could inspire or encourage anyone else. I might as well give up. I should just quit right now!”
But then something strange would happen. I would get an idea of how someone else encouraged me or how an experience helped me change my perspective. There have been many healing proclamations made here on this blog and I’m grateful for every single one of them.
So what I’m really trying to say here is please don’t give up on your dreams, whatever they may be.
I’m an aspiring writer. I’m working my butt off every day to get better and to deal with the messy things in life along the way. I hope you decide to do the same thing. Just get started and keep going! One day, you may wake up and realize you’ve practiced your craft over 200 times without even knowing it.