“Oh crap!” We’ve all been there. We woke up late, didn’t hear the alarm going off, and jumped out of bed in a frenzy! Trying to get dressed and/or take a quick shower while not completely aware of your surroundings can be dangerous. (Especially for people like me who tend to be on the more clumsy side of the spectrum!)
But waking up late doesn’t have to set this plan in motion for the rest of the day to be totally awful! You can recover from the bad start to the day, but you have to have to put in the effort to make it better.
Why do you think I’m writing about this today? I overslept this morning and am already behind my normal schedule. My immediate thought was to be really pissed that I snoozed my alarm 5 times instead of getting up when the first alarm went off. I also thought, “Man, today’s going to be terrible! I’m definitely not going to be on my best game today!”
I am not only going to have a great day, but I refuse to let this one hiccup mess things up for the remainder of the day. The sun is shining. The weather is good. The kids are out of school and we have lots of fun things planned. They don’t need me being totally miserable and a “fun-ruiner” just because I started my day off badly.
So even if you have a bad day or a bad experience throughout the day, try to make the effort to be the best version of yourself. It may not work all of the time, but the effort you put forth will be what you get out of today!
I’m not sure if you’re able to notice it when it hits others square in the face, but stress doesn’t look good on most people. Predictors of stress I usually notice first are anxiousness, inability to focus, impatience, and irritability. I can spot it from a mile away in some people I know very well.
So, what do we do when we see stress in others?
I try to acknowledge where the stress is coming from. Maybe I can’t pinpoint the exact location of where the stress started, but I can definitely narrow it down from personal, work, marital/relationship, or parenting issues.
Another thing that is helpful is to put yourself in their shoes. I know this can be difficult when you don’t know exactly where someone else is coming from, but it does help to realize why some of the things that are not as stressful to you are more stress inducing to others.
Lastly, empathy can go a long way. Empathy is defined by Merriam Webster as the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner. In other words, showing empathy means not judging another person’s situation based on only the facts you have right in front of you. Take a second to really listen to their issues and show empathy to the person or people you care about.
What are some stress relieving tactics you can use do with other people?